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What Tiger Woods can teach you about happiness

There's a striking scene in Tiger, the documentary about golfer Tiger Woods that is a master class in the pursuit of unhappiness, in which Tiger sinks the putt that won the 2000 British Open. His ex-caddie Steve Williams narrates the scene and tells us that Tiger barely paused to mark this stellar achievement: “One of the most unusual things about working for Tiger is that there were never any big celebrations. As soon as that tournament was over, the thought was to the next major championship.” Tiger Woods put the grim in determination, and of the five wellness pillars, had only stepping and sweating consistently covered. Sleep, reflection and connection were elusive. If only Tiger had heeded the wisdom of the stoic philosopher Seneca who wrote, “You could be happy today, but instead you choose tomorrow.” The lesson of Tiger Woods is don't tell yourself you'll be happy when you have 19 major wins. Celebrate even the smallest accomplishments, find contentment in all that you have, and don't be afraid to say the word enough. And don't go to Vegas! This week's 5-Minute Recharge celebrates wellness and answers the questions why you shouldn't diet, why you need dreams, and why it isn't normal to be less active as you age. ONE POETIC QUOTE “For there is always light, if only we're brave enough to see it. If only we're brave enough to be it.”Amanda Gorman ONE STYLISH IMAGE




Harry Styles and Phoebe Waller-Bridge encourage us to wear sparkly argyle vests and treat people with kindness. THREE IDEAS #1 Stop the diet riot. Andrea Wachter started dieting when she was 12 years old, after someone teased her about the size of her thighs. She joined her mother and sister on what she calls, “the diet-riot roller coaster” where thoughts of food become obsessive and behavior swings between deprivation and rebellion. Obsession with food and body image takes you out of the moment and into a trance where you drift further and further away from the part of you that knows who you are and what you need. Wachter’s escape from the diet-riot mentality, detailed in this must-hear episode of The Happiness Lab, involved turning inward and dealing with the emotional, mental and spiritual issues that drove her to diet. Today, she opens a menu and before ordering asks herself, “What feels loving and respectful to my body?” Wachter encourages all of us to make thoughtful food choices based on three criteria–what is nutritious, delicious and moderate–and to mindfully enjoy our food without asking it to cure our loneliness, anger, shame, or fear. “No weight is ever perfect enough to do the enormous job of creating happiness.” – Andrea Wachter #2. Dreaming is free...therapy. “Covid dreams” have become a nighttime staple of the pandemic–weird dreams that often feature bugs, zombies, and masklesss monsters. But did you know that dreams are a form of emotional first aid? According to sleep expert Matthew Walker, we need dreams to remove the emotional charge from events we experience during the day, so that they don’t continue to torment us in the future. Your overnight therapy occurs during the rapid eye movement (REM) sleep phase that becomes more predominant the longer you sleep. The emotional healing that occurs during sleep, along with the intimate relationship between sleep health and immune health, is why sleep is so critical for your wellbeing during the pandemic. “We’re dreaming more during Covid because we need dreams to process the difficult emotional challenges we’re encountering.” - Matthew Walker, from the terrific Feel Better, Live More podcast #3 The anti-aging elixir. A mountain of evidence points to a singular conclusion: the fountain of youth is running with sweat. Daniel Lieberman, in his wonderful book Exercised, presents the grandparent hypothesis: human longevity was made possible by grandparents who were active during old age to enable as many children, grandchildren, and other younger relatives, to survive and thrive. Stone Age grandparents didn't retire to Florida to ride around in golf carts: they did plenty of walking, carrying, digging, and other forms of physical activity. Therefore natural selection favored the repair and maintenance of active older bodies. Exercise is a stressor that triggers a potent anti-stress response. It's the cascade of post-exercise anti-stress reactions that slows the process of aging and the progress of disease, and the reason why moving becomes even more important as we age. “Being active helps us age well...and it is almost never too late to benefit from getting fit.” – Daniel Lieberman from Exercised *********************************** THE FAST FIVE 1. The Year of Grinding Teeth - The Paris Review (“Whatever else living in unprecedented times does to us, it leaves traces behind in our bodies, even if we never fall ill.” You will never think about teeth the same way after reading this brilliant essay.) 2. Why self-compassion – not self-esteem – leads to success - BBC Worklife (Self-compassion makes you stronger, not lazier.) 3. Stop keeping score - The Atlantic (The person dies with the most checked boxes wins, right? Wrong, Tiger!) 4. The joy of steps: 20 ways to give purpose to your daily walks The Guardian (When it comes to winter walking, we could all use a little push of motivation to get us out the door.) 5. The role of love in mental health - The School of Life (Love has an indomitable power to rescue us from mental illness.) *********************************** YOUR 5-MINUTE RECHARGE CHALLENGE THE WELL-WISH “Comparison is the thief of joy.” - Theodore Roosevelt This week's 5-Minute Recharge challenge comes from former diet-rioter Andrea Wachter's book The Don't Diet, Live It Workbook, and has nothing to do with dieting (although it is part of the plan to eliminate the dieting mindset). This challenge is about moving away from competitiveness that deprives us of joy and toward camaraderie that strengthens the pillar of connection. Is there is a person in your life that you're currently struggling with? If so, take a moment to think positively of them and send them a wish that they have a good day, be healthy, feel good, and have all the things you would want for yourself. Well-wishing can be used with anyone, including strangers. When you find yourself judging someone and comparing yourself to them, feeling jealous or uncomfortable, wish them well. Or simply send silent well-wishes to everyone you encounter. “When your thoughts are positive and noncompetitive, you will find yourself calmer and more content. And, of course, this will have a positive effect on your food choices, not to mention your overall health and wellbeing.” – Andrea Wachter Wishing you the very best in wellness, Lynne Everatt, The 5-Minute Recharge



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