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Welcome to The 5-Minute Recharge with 1 quote, 3 ideas, and a 5-minute challenge to supercharge your wellness.
1 QUOTE: All Serious Daring Starts from Within
“I feel indomitable: so full of energy, so avid for life, so keenly interested in everyone and everything. My mood soars.”
― Rachel Cooke hesitates to tell another 'Pilates-changed-my-life' story...but Pilates changed her life
FOUNDED ON FRIENDSHIP A couple of weeks ago, Lynne had the pleasure of chatting over lunch with Trena White about her friendship with her Page Two Books co-founder Jesse Finkelstein. The result of that conversation is this article that examines how business can be enriched through friendship. The quality of our lives is a reflection of the quality of our relationships, and no amount of free-flowing kombucha can compensate for toxic relationships in the workplace such as those described in this viral business story about the luggage startup Away. The world needs more Trena and Jesse and less emotional baggage.
“A big hug to my biz partner, Trena, who is the reason I've got the best job and team and authors anyone could ask for.” ― Jesse Finkelstein
INSTAGRAM = INSTASAD? Should Instagram come with a mental health warning label? A number of influencers have been spotted on Instagram sporting warning labels, although drawing social media attention with a warning about social media is like smoking while displaying a message from the Surgeon General.
The warning label is warranted: a recent survey revealed that Instagram is considered the worst social media network for wellbeing, its steady stream of narcissism and envy associated with higher levels of anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Instagram has acknowledged its mental health problem and is experimenting with hiding like counts, restricting the visibility of dieting products and cosmetic procedures, and valuing more authenticity, but authenticity on Instagram is perfection with a soupçon of crafted imperfection. Rebecca Jennings of Vox asks: Is Instagram broken beyond repair?
“Our social media appearance is not our real personality...The irony is that we all know that consuming too much social media is bad for our mental health, and we still do it.” — Maria Gabriela Santos
Social media is a hard habit to break, which brings us to Idea #3...
HABITS ARE WHAT HAPPEN WHEN WE'RE BUSY THINKING OTHER THOUGHTS According to research, 43 percent of our behaviour is habitual. We slip into habits to automate solutions to life's problems, but of our habitual problem-solving behaviours, how many help us and how many hinder us? Research suggests that people achieve success in life, not through self-control, but by being good architects of habits. The key to being a good architect, according to author of Atomic Habits James Clear, is to change our perception of ourselves to match the desired habit. For example, if you want to make going to the gym a good habit (here's yet another study suggesting that the fountain of youth is in a puddle of sweat) begin thinking of yourself as an athlete. The key to becoming a good architect of habits according to researcher and author of Good Habits, Bad Habits Wendy Wood is to structure your life to make make it easy for a good habit to take hold or difficult for a bad habit to maintain its grip. To continue with the gym example, packing a gym bag the night before and placing it by the front door is a good way to a good way to set yourself up for a morning workout (by the way, we don't recommend sacrificing sleep for a workout like the Peloton wife). Wood also stresses the importance of relationships as habit cues. Our romantic partners invite us into a dance of habit which sounds unromantic but can be powerful when put to good use. However you decide to build your habit be patient: the best evidence we have is that it takes two to three months to form a simple habit.
“The most effective way to change your habits is to focus, not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become.” – James Clear
1 5-MINUTE RECHARGE CHALLENGE: BEST-CASE SCENARIO
“If you can imagine the worst thing, you can imagine the best thing.”
In last week's 5-Minute Recharge, we reviewed a few of our favourite tweets in response to the question: What was the best thing you learned from therapy?. This week's 5-minute challenge is based on one of the responses to that question that asks us to imagine the best thing that could happen. We have a built-in negativity bias that served us well when being too optimistic could result in death by sabre-tooth tiger, but doesn't serve us so well as we prepare for that big presentation.
Think about an upcoming event that you've been anticipating with some trepidation, or even dread. Now take five minutes to imagine the best-case scenario. Write down what you see, and be radical...
“Optimism is our instinct to inhale while suffocating. Our need to declare what “needs to be” in the face of what is. Optimism is not uncool; it is rebellious and daring and vital.”
Wishing you a week of rebellious optimism,
Lynne & Addie