Meditation has more magic than mushrooms
Welcome to The 5-Minute Recharge with one quote, three ideas, and a 5-minute challenge to supercharge your wellness.
Maybe Dopamine Fasters Should Spend Time With 2-Year-Olds
“I think this is a better fast for those who have a very theoretical existence, which I currently do not. If your phone is your main connection with others, it becomes a horrible drain and pall on your finite resources because no one is truly really to you―the device in your hand just contains a series of phantasms who want something.”
― In her essay on her brief but meaningful experience with dopamine fasting, Rebecca Harrington gives us a delightful shot of dopamine
#1 KOBE AND CLAYTON Kobe Bryant is being remembered this week for his superhuman work ethic that produced a basketball career unlike any other, yet another man who recently passed away talked about “how” to work hard. Clayton Christensen was best known for his theory of disruptive innovation, but he came to realize that the personal accolades meant nothing compared to the importance of him helping others become better people which uncovered his life's purpose. On the last day of class, Christensen would ask his Harvard students to answer these three questions:
How can I be sure I'll be happy in my career?How can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family can become an enduring source of happiness?How can I be sure I'll stay out of jail? (a number of Christensen's classmates landed in jail, so this is not an idle question!)
Directions on how to answer these questions, contained in the Harvard Business Review essay entitled “How will you measure your life?”, are well worth pondering.
“This is my final recommendation: Think about the metric by which your life will be judged, and make a resolution to live every day so that in the end, your life will be judged a success.” ― Clayton Christensen
In the book Acts of Friendship, the activity “Take Your Cue” encourages you and your friends to explore the things you love and align your life with its cues to guide you to a better life.
#2 ARE MUSHROOMS MAGIC? You may have read about the emergence of psychedelic retreats as a fast track to better mental health (here's an excellent primer). In The 5-Minute Recharge, we talk about psilocybin, the magic ingredient in mushrooms and how its effects can be much like those of Metta meditation that involves cultivating compassion for self and others. Feeling a greater sense of connection to people, even strangers...new ways of behaving and responding...gratitude. Sound familiar? The same effects can be found by both frequent meditators and by those who have taken psychedelics, without the risk of diarrhea and vomiting or a bad trip. It has been said that a wandering mind is a less caring mind, and meditation is the mental gym that develops the attention muscle.
“I had a sense of knowing, surety, and a sense of peace and great comfort that this is a unity between me, other people, nature, and the world...gratitude for others, and love.”
― A Manhattan lawyer reflects on his experience with psilocybin
“It's almost like people become your children. That same tender warm happiness you have for your child when they're having fun and they're happy or they get something they like, you can feel for a complete stranger and it's quite incredible.”
― A meditator reflects on his experience with metta meditation
In the Acts of Friendship activity “Moments of Meditation” we talk about the power of shared meditation.
#3 A LET IT RAIN Our favourite meditation teacher Tara Brach has a new book entitled Radical Compassion in which she provides instructions on how to become your own best friend and a good friend to others. In challenging situations, let the RAIN of self-compassion fall on you as you...
R recognize what's going on. Consciously acknowledge the thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that are affecting you.
A allow the the experience to be there, just as it is. Let the feelings be there without trying to fix or avoid anything.
I is investigate with interest and care. Be curious and ask yourself what most needs attention?
N is nurture with self-compassion. What do you need to do to comfort yourself?
Whether it involves touching your heart (kinetic), imagining someone who loves you (visualization) or repeating a mantra (auditory), you owe it to yourself to bring RAIN into your life and treat yourself with kindness. Please, please, please, listen to this 10 Percent Happier interview with Tara Brach and think about all the ways you can be kinder to yourself...by getting over yourself.
“When I'm free from self-occupation, there's a pure awareness that naturally responds with love.”
– Tara Brach
You can make RAIN a shared experience with the Acts of Friendship activity “A Journal of Discovery.”
Back by popular demand: The Fast Five
THE 5-MINUTE RECHARGE CHALLENGE PLAN YOUR JOY
“We plan our work. That's what we're taught to do, but we're not taught to plan our joy.” – Michelle Obama
This week's 5-Minute Recharge challenge is to take five minutes to plan one joyful activity in the week ahead. Planning joy is your resilience formula, and the antidote for burnout. Doing good work doesn't mean you have to be miserable. If you don't plan something that will make you smile, you will burn yourself out and won't be able to be of service to anyone. So plan your joy.
The first person to complete this challenge and email a copy of your joyful plan for next week to firstname.lastname@example.org will receive a copy of the book Acts of Friendship: 47 Ways to Recharge your Life, Make Real Connections and Deepen Your Relationships that contains 47 activities that will bring you and your friends joy, optimism, and potentially life-changing insights.
“Don't postpone joy until you have learned all of your lessons. Joy is your lesson.” ― Alan Cohen
Wishing you many joyful moments in the week ahead, Lynne & Addie