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Are you on the road to a life of no regrets?

Let’s dive right in because I’m soooo excited to share what I’ve discovered this week to help you improve your life. 1. The ideal road is too often not taken Cornell researchers have found that the single biggest regret people have at the end of their lives is their failure to live up to their ideal selves — their hopes, dreams, and aspirations. People tend not to regret not living up to their “ought selves” — their duties, obligations, and responsibilities. Your ought self has a clear job description that reads like a series of commandments. Your ideal self, however, tends to be less well-defined, unattached to deadlines (other than death) and more “goosebumpy.” Fear of failure or what other people will think may be holding you back and giving you goosebumps, but the key to a regret-free life is to take one small step toward the person you ideally want to be. “When we evaluate our lives, we think about whether we’re heading toward our ideal selves, becoming the person we want to be. These are the regrets that are going to stick with you because they are what you look at through the windshield of life.”- Tom Gilovich, professor of psychology, Cornell University Find out more, including how to discover the road to your ideal self, in The Science of Success podcast, “What Do You Want to Do Before You Die?2. What’s Peloton’s secret to getting us to exercise? Simple. That’s it. Peloton makes exercise easy. It's theoretically possible to fall out of bed and into a quick Peloton workout. Not me, but I'm sure people have done the bed-to-bike thing. If you want to replicate Peloton’s methods, set up your environment to make it as simple and appealing as possible to exercise…or eat well…or do anything that will improve your wellbeing. The environment in which you make decisions about your health matters far more than you think. “Make it so easy to do that it’s ridiculous not to.” - David Packles, Senior Director of Product Management at Peloton Interactive Find out more about Peloton’s secret sauce including the “foot-in-the-door effect” in the The Science of Change inaugural podcast episode, “How is Peloton so Good at Getting Us to Exercise?3. Your biological brain is bursting at the seams. What can you do to ease the pressure? To prevent your brain from exploding and impaling the people around you with shards of random resentments, draw on your extended mind, the world outside your brain — the signals your body is picking up, technology, physical space, and the minds of other people. Science writer and author of The Extended Mind Anne Murphy Paul argues that you can ease stress and improve the quality of your thinking by getting ideas out of your head and into the physical world where they can be stored, manipulated and shared with others. At a time when the demands for mental effort are relentless, you have never needed your extended mind more than you do now. Find out more about how you can use your extended mind in this Anne Murphy Paul interview on The Psychology Podcast. And check out “How to Think Outside Your Brain” by Anne Murphy Paul in The New York Times. 4. Did you hear about the nun who procrastinated about doing her laundry? She had a filthy habit! 🤣 If only the nun had set an implementation intention. Kristen Berman is a behavioral scientist who studies the gap between what people say they will do and what they actually do. “In behavioral science we worship implementation intentions,” says Berman. We tend to procrastinate when we believe an activity is complex. Writing down the when, where, and how (the first small step) makes it much more likely that you will follow through and actually do what you said you would do. The implementation intention has been used to get people to vote, exercise, and get flu shots, and is perfect for plotting the first step of your journey along the ideal road to no regrets. Find out more about implementation intentions and other behavioral science tricks in this “The Science of Behavior Change” episode of All the Hacks. 5. Give yourself a high five In March 2020 Mel Robbins lost her television show and her book deal to the pandemic. She was spiraling into despair until one morning she looked in the mirror and, tapping into her brain’s celebratory circuits, gave herself a high five. Soon the downward spiral became an upward spiral and Mel had the idea for a new book, The High 5 Habit. There’s a reason “Celebrate” is the second recharge in The 5-Minute Recharge. Celebration works. And who better to celebrate than yourself? Give high fiving yourself a try. Find out more about the high five habit in this Mel Robbins interview from the On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast. _____________ Your Recharge Quote of the Week from The Wall Street Journal “He truly believed that by making something useful, empowering, and beautiful, we express our love for humanity.” - Jony Ive, former Apple Chief Design Officer, shares how Steve Jobs found his ideal self. ____________ Wishing you an enjoyable journey on the road to no regrets, Lynne

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